I generally don’t like these “Hallmark Holidays” type “special days” and really don’t care if anyone remembers it – but I do remember to remember that Mothers Day is important.
I didn’t grow up with a Dad – he passed away from complications from surgery after a car accident when I was 11. Before that, he and my Mom had separated and for years, I only saw him on weekends. I am thankful, though, for all of the men who donated their time in various youth activities (e.g., Cub Scout, Boy Scouts, Medical Explorer Scouts, Christian Service Brigade, various youth ministries at the church I grew up in). No, I’ll never know what it would have been to have a full time – all the time Dad, but these men did fill a gap that was there that I, at the time, did not know existed.
I wonder, too, if some of the mistake I made with the Youngest and the Oldest were because of the lack of example that I had growing up. But I look at some of the medical problems that they had growing up and I know that anything that I might have missed by not having a Dad would not have made a difference in dealing with those problems. At the time, I thought to myself “This is impossible – I don’t even know if they’ll even make it to high school graduation because of their behaviors”. All things considered, I guess I didn’t too such a bad job. Why? I’m now starting to hear them say that the reason why they are doing some of they are is because of the example I set. I thought they were totally ignoring me growing up. Yet, I see what they are trying to do today, they way they are trying to make important decisions in their lives: “But Dad, that’s not how you would handled it – you did such and such back when: I WATCHED YOU and I listened to you”.
Talk about being held accountable! That beats yet-another-Fathers-Day tie any time…

