(H/T: Lucianne.com)
The New Orlean Times-Picayune has a story about a 23 year old single mom who appeared on the Oprah show, destitute from Katrina. A church in the Chicago area offered her their parsonage for free for her and her two daughters and son (now 5, 1, and 4 months). and she moved into it in September.
She had a job back in October, which seemed to end soon after she got it. She subsequently said no to several other jobs (as the article states):
She has since stayed home to raise the children.
A year has effectively gone by, and the church wants its parsonage (a house usually owned by a church for use by its clergy) back. She doesn’t want to go. Complicating the matter a bit, there seems to be a "church said / she said" disagreement about her leaving – was it June (the church) or December (the mom). She says that she has no money to go anywhere.
The story does say a single mom – no mention of a boyfriend coming up with her from New Orleans. So I will ask the hard question: Where’s the Dad? The answer is "Who knows?" (certainly not from the story – no mention at all). So I will assume the worst – he skipped out.
Oh, but Skip, you’re being judgemental, you mean spirited conservative Republican who, in this case, REALLY wants to throw the baby out with the bathwater for bringing it up.
My answer is that this question is not being asked enough; the discussion on this has been put away too many times because it is too sensitive. It is judgemental and rightfully so, this affects kids. I applaud Bill Cosby (still love his "Noah" bit after all these years) for causing a ruckus in the black community about the problems in the black community, among them unwed mothers and men refusing to be fathers (and yes, I am stereotyping here based based on the names of the mother and offsprings – the story doesn’t say but they certainly aren’t from my Irish or Swedish background).
So why isn’t Dad in the picture, providing for his family? What is it about a lot of men (or should I just call them kids?) that they feel that they do not have to provide for what they have created? Is it just a "all about me" mentality, or is it just a lack of maturity and a willingness to take responsibility for one’s actions (and their results)?
Andy why do we let them get away with it?