An Open Letter to the NHCADSV in response to their FB Post on the Murder of Sandra Marisol Fuentes Huarache
Your Facebook post alleging concern over Sandra Marisol Feuntes Huaracha’s murder is fickle. You’ve sat on countless pointless “task forces” ordered by Governor after Governor, AG after AG and the unfortunate truth is that these only serve “the stakeholders”, not the public who pay for the services of the stakeholders, including yours. Even members of the fatality review task force have said that it failed. You were part of it, and you failed.
We all know the patterns of escalating danger, stalking threats, weapons access, protective order violations, and fear, except you and your fellow stakeholders.
At least the Berlin Police Department published its report. We can never expect the same from the Concord Police Department because, as of December 6, 2023 (according to the City Solicitor in an email to me in April 2026), its internal affairs are not to be made public. How convenient – it was just two days after I filed to get information on Concord PD Julie Curtin, a dishonest police officer who obtained files from a private school about private students with no warrant and then withheld those records; a police officer who lied on a sworn affidavit about a report from a SANE nurse. Who was she working with? The NHCADSV. What did she go on to do? To track rape kits for the AG’s office and become an investigator for the Diocese.
Both organizations have their own serious credibility issues. Your organization doesn’t even want to give rape victims access to rape kits unless you think it’s useful for your own agenda. You don’t want them to know what their rights are either. How can you say that there should be printed protocols for police officers on domestic violence, but want to block victims from seeing what their rights are on a palm card when they visit a police station or hospital? Victims last.
Podcaster Gracie Gato was violently assaulted by Kyle Gato a few years ago. She testified to a House committee on February 11, 2014, that she came to you for help and you denied it because you asked her to choose between her friendship with me, who has been critical of the NHCADSV, and you.
You are a public service, in existence purely through taxpayer dollars, which include Marisol’s, Gracie’s, and mine. As such, you should not be discriminating against anyone at all, but you do. Not only that, you stalk women. You cyberstalked me when I wrote in to the LEACT commission about my concerns regarding the coercion of minors in sexual assault investigations. You found out my private information, and then you got your attorneys at Shaheen & Gordon to threaten me with a defamation suit if I didn’t shut up. Your concern? Amanda Grady Sexton’s reputation as she ran for re-election as Councilor at large for Concord.
Your organization has no regard for women’s privacy whatsoever. You disregarded mine, and then your colleague, Jennifer Kretovic, a councilor for Concord and former director and board member of THRIVE crisis center, posted a photo of Rep. Ellen Read’s (a survivor who was also denied help by you) car on Facebook. You didn’t care about the privacy of students at St Paul’s School.
The kind of invasion of privacy you engage in is dangerous. It has put our lives and those of others in danger.
You accurately state that the Berlin Police Department’s internal review identifies serious failures in response to the murder of Sandra Marisol Fuentes Huarache. Let me remind you that when Gracie Gato needed help, her husband was on Facebook boasting about his guns. He and his attorney, Kempton P. Giggey, arranged for the Rockingham County Sheriff to go around late at night to subpoena a woman at her home to find out how much Gracie was going to earn from a TV series deal, which I was negotiating on her behalf. The woman was completely terrified.
Gracie has tried to ban Kempton P. Giggey from her child custody case, but the judge has vetoed that. Meanwhile, Gracie’s son, who was recorded on video as being verbal before the assault, has been non-verbal ever since. It’s amazing that the NHCADSV gets a portion of every marriage license fee to end up being so utterly useless and detrimental to people like Gracie, Marisol, and others. It galls me that part of my own marriage license fee in New Hampshire funded an organization to cyberstalk me.
The NHCADSV has an insurmountable conflict of interest with its training of police and prosecutors and referrals to private attorneys. It is harming victims, not helping them. The NHCADSV has never ever spoken up to get accountability for corrupt police. Not once. In fact, it has been instrumental in covering up police corruption. There is no safety for any man, woman, or child until police corruption is addressed.
You suck up to Governor after Governor, but you won’t address the Governor’s cover-ups of violent or sexually abusive police in Claremont, Concord, or elsewhere. There are too many cases to list. Women police officers who speak up face retaliation. The NHCADSV is nowhere to be found. Of course not, because the money is tied to cover-ups, not accountability, and common sense that actually keeps us all safe. We don’t need any more mumbo jumbo from “experts” who have nothing but training from lobbyists or academics out to grift off public dollars.
I will never forget the NHCADSV’s attempt at “gotcha” with Kathy Giles, the Rector of St Paul’s School, during a “fireside chat” at Gibson’s Bookstore in Concord in 2020 about Lacy Crawford’s memoir “Notes on a Silencing”. Ms. Giles was asked what she would do if a student reported being sexually assaulted, with the intention that Giles would say she’d steer the student to the local crisis center. Giles responded with complete common sense to the effect, “First of all, I’d ask: Are you OK?”
Currently, if people were steered to the local crisis center (THRIVE) in Concord, they’d find a notice saying that THRIVE is short-staffed. But the center did receive a $500,000 block grant for brand-new offices.
You receive money to train police, DCYF, and others. You state that every police department should have “clear written policies for responding to domestic violence calls, welfare checks involving threats of homicide, reports of protective order violations, firearms and ammunition relinquismment, third party contact and technology-facilitated abuse.” And you call for “documentation.”
Let me remind you that you yourselves don’t want to be held accountable for anything and you don’t want to provide documentation as other agencies and non-profits are required to under 91A. You called HB1675 an attack on you that would harm victims. Precisely the reverse is true. The goal of HB1675, HB1633, and others was to help victims. You have planted yourselves in the middle of everything and helped nobody while collecting millions and millions in grants, while paying lobbyists but not reporting the lobbying as required under RSA 15A.
Explain this: Brian Croft was a Concord Police Officer who was reported to DCYF for domestic violence against his family. He kept his job at the Concord Police Department for months after. Chairing the Concord Public Safety Committee was Councilor Amanda Grady Sexton of the NHCADSV. She said nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Merrimack County Sheriff Scott Hilliard was convicted for a DWI. He kept his job for a while after he was arrested as well. NHCADSV said nothing. An assistant deputy sheriff had his rape of a female inmate overturned because it was unclear whether he worked for the DOC or the Sheriff’s department at the time he assaulted her. The NHCADSV said nothing. We could go down a long list.
The NHCADSV trains police in “best practices”. It’s a lie. The NHCADSV is in bed with police corruption. Police departments that are corrupt don’t look out for the safety of anyone, and NHCADSV, working closely with them, do not either. Period.
You state, “when a survivor continues to report stalking violations, threats, weapons, surveillance, or escalating behavior, law enforcement should be reconnecting that survivor with confidential advocates and safety planning resources.”
Riddle me this: who was I supposed to go to when I got cyberstalked and threatened by the NHCADSV? I went to the LEACT commission and the AG’s office and was met with silence. I can’t go to anyone – especially the NHCADSV who put my life in danger. You continue to dismiss me as an out-of-state conspiracy theorist while you are quite happy to take hundreds of thousands from a California billionaire- Henry T Nicholas III- who kept an underground sex and drug lair and who is a convicted felon for drug trafficking, which led to first responders having to resuscitate his girlfriend. You call him “a victim”.
Who is Gracie Gato supposed to go to when she gets refused service by the NHCADSV? She can’t go to anyone. There’s no alternative to you, and there is no accountability with you.
Your training sucks. You don’t address domestic violence. In fact, you turn a blind eye to it when it suits you. Ditto sexual violence. If there’s money to be had instead of fixing a problem for once and for all, you can guarantee that the NHCADSV will be first in line to introduce ambulance-chasing attorneys at Nixon Peabody or Shaheen & Gordon who will put the NHCADSV’s interests above those of the clients they refer to them because their bread is buttered with VAWA and VOCA grants, which have been systemically abused. Marsol is not the first, and she is not the last.
There’s really only one way to fix this, and that is to get rid of qualified immunity and to force the NHCADSV to have transparent contracts with the agencies. Every time there is a tragedy, you are there to milk it for more training, more funds. You’ve abused the funds you have received. Why should you get more? I heard former Justice Barbara Hantz-Marconi shut down Amanda Grady Sexton in a Governor’s task force when the latter suggested applying for a grant. Bravo, Justice Hantz-Marconi, for seeing that federal grifting doesn’t replace common sense.
Common sense is far more effective than any of the training you have ever disseminated or been involved in.
I guarantee that police departments in New Hampshire will respond better without the NHCADSV’s interference. There are plenty of mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters in the police department. They have common sense. Whistleblower laws need to be enforced so that those who speak up with common sense don’t end up being stalked or cyberstalked or retaliated against. Retaliation is in your DNA as many of us have discovered. That’s a toxic situation that emboldens dangerous vigilantism.
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