Over at The Blaze is a post about a Mom who watched the MTV VMA show – and saw it for what it was. She has penned a letter (“penned” sounds so much better than “keyboarded”) and posted it on her blog. In essence, she is drawing a line in the sand for her daughter – and firing a shot against the Progressive values that have so much demeaned the value of self-respect and the value of truly knowing who you are. Cyrus’s act perfectly shows the effect of the Progressive hard core emphasis on freedom of action (an adaption of Nike’s “just do it” – and do it all) and nary a word of self-limitation on moral grounds.
Remember Andrew Brietbart’s admonition to those of us who wish to change politics back to Constitutional values: “Politics is downstream from politics”. Here is one Mom’s effort to change that culture for her beloved daughter:
Dear daughter, let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you.
Yes, this is what happens when you constantly hear everything you do is awesome. This is what happens when people fawn over your every Tweet and Instagram photo. This is what happens when no responsible adult has ever said the word “no,” made you change your clothes before leaving the house, or never spanked your butt for deliberate defiance.
Unlike Progressives that believe every 11 year old has a right to Plan B and the right for her teacher to bring her to Planned Parenthood, this Mom says “here is my line in the sand on your behavior”. In fact, she goes on to demonstrate that her daughter’s decisions WILL have Mom’s consequences follow through .
What the Progressives want is for their values to supersede parental ones. Not all Progressives believe this – but those that are against the value and role of nuclear families in our society are. Mom slaps at the notion that “elevating self-esteem” is the highest moral value schools can teach. Instead, what young skulls full of much need to know is “NO!” – teaching the “chess moves of life” is mentoring your children that some decisions lead to bad consequences – and I WILL put that fence up in your way. Even at her age, Mom is showing her daught that Cryus is showing what happens when Moms and Dads don’t do THEIR jobs in training their kids to be respectful, moral, and righteous adults that can limit themselves.
If you ever even consider doing something like that, I promise you that I will run up and twerk so you will see how ridiculous twerking looks. I will duct tape your mouth shut so your tongue doesn’t hangout like an overheated hound dog. I will smack any male whom you decide to smash against his pelvis – after I first knock you on your butt for forgetting how a lady acts in public.
Why would I do that? Because I love you and I want you to respect yourself. Miley Cyrus is not edgy or cool or sexy. She’s a desperate girl screaming for attention: Notice me. Tell me I’m pretty. See how hot I am. I know all the guys want me. All the girls want to be me.
There are some things that adults should never do after a certain age – Speedos are long gone for me even if my shape was better than a pear’s. And here, Mom is right – having been coddled all her life and being the focus of everyone else (all those adults whose careers depended upon the acting of a child tend to put the child’s long term interests last) has probably left a big whole in her life. Without the grounding that Mom is trying to do for her daughter (and it seems that Cyrus’s did not)
You probably know girls who will emulate this behavior at the next school dance. Don’t do it with them. You are far too valuable to sell yourself so cheaply. Walk away. Let the boys gawk and know in your heart that they see only a body that can be used for their pleasure and then forgotten.
A hard lesson, for who doesn’t want to be in with the “cool kids”, the “in group”? Back in the Stone Age when I was in High School, I watched many try to worm their way into that clique or that clique, only to later find out that their antics were only for the amusement of others. They became one of the objects of discussion, but not for the reasons they desired. Human nature generally doesn’t change – and I bet what I saw happen back in the ’70s happened back in the ’20s and will happen still in the next set of ’20s. Mom is saying that there is a better definition of what “self-esteem” really is.
I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt sad because I haven’t gushed over everything you’ve done. My role is to praise when praise is due, but also to offer constructive criticism and correction when it is needed as well. I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt demoralized because your Instagram following isn’t in the thousands, and I’m sorry those “selfies” can never capture how amazingly beautiful you truly are. I’m sorry if you’ve ever wished you had a friend instead of a mom, and I promise you that I will probably get worse when you hit high school.
Expectations. Yes, we are in the country that still is the best place for opportunity to be used for advancement – but that real praise, the kind that results of actual accomplishment means hard work over some lengthy amount of time, the kind of achievement stemming from persistance. Doubt me? Then ask this guy.
Dear daughter, I am going to fight or die trying to keep you from becoming like the Miley Cyruses of the world.
You can thank me later.
Indeed. Each of my boys has had a hard time and I have had to change my level of expectations of what “success” would be in my mind for them. But I agree with Mom here – I have ALWAYS told my boys that “I and your Mom will always have your best interests at heart – even if you don’t want to hear it”. There are times to say great job and a slap on the back. And then on the flip side there is that stern look (even now at they are starting to approach the end of their twenties) and words of admonition (and sometimes, to the point of derision, because they are hard headed kids and trying to get their attention by spanking would result in much laughter and me looking, well, rather sad).
Even as most Progressives hate it (for it demonstrates their own lack of moral clarity), this whole Letter can be summed up in one sentence:
Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
That would be from Proverbs, Chapter 22, verse 6. Yes, there are parents that HAVE done all the right things and the kids still go astray in their teenage and adult lives – but there is much wisdom in that line. And wisdom built upon traditions that have worked over the ages.
And in this case, Mom has fired a shot across her daughter’s bow – for the culture is trying to yank her daughter where no self-respecting person should go.
