A sad commentary: Having to ask Santa for a "Dad"? - Granite Grok

A sad commentary: Having to ask Santa for a “Dad”?

Civil Society – that “space” that the Founders cherished that was to be between a limited Government and Individuals.  An important foundational part of that future was to be the nuclear family: Mother, Father, children (again, like Capitalism, under attack by Progressives / Socialists / Marxists / Communists for their own greedy political power grab to redefine American Exceptionalism).  Certainly in Britain, the Political Elites have been redefining British Society since WW II when the Fabian Socialists took control – their present may well be our future (culturally speaking).

Great results there, old boy – jolly good bad (emphasis and reformatting mine):

When it comes to Christmas, it might be safe to assume children will ask Santa for an extensive list of toys, games and treats.  But a survey of their typical lists for Father Christmas has shown many have more serious concerns, requesting “a dad” instead. A study of 2,000 British parents found most children will put a new baby brother or sister at the top of their Christmas list, closely followed by a request for a real-life reindeer. A “pet horse” was the third most popular choice, with a “car” making a bizarre entry at number four.  Despite their material requests, the tenth most popular Christmas wish on the list was a “Dad“.

…A request for a “mum” reached number 23 on the list.

Tenth?  Doesn’t that scream out at you – TENTH??  That ranking tells me that the broken families abound – and if the illegitimacy rate is anything like here in the US, there are millions of kids who only have a single parent.  Every child should have the right to both a father and mother – and I know from personal experience.

I rarely saw my Dad when I was young (a second marriage for him, my mom’s first) he was in his early sixties when he died when I was 12.  Yes, she tried hard, but in looking back, she could not be both a Mom and a Dad at the same time.  I was fortunate, however, having a number of men in the church volunteering in the various youth programs acting as a stand-in, even if part time.  I turned out ok by most traditional measures, but I will be honest to say that my sons suffered for my lack of an actual role model.  We had a number of tumultuous years in which we had to cope with all kinds of “situations” – thankfully, we all made it through those times.  That said and as they grew into their later teens, I did tell them that I had tried to do my best but in a lot of areas, I was making it up on the fly having no positive role model beforehand (“the sins of the father…”).

What the post said to me is that there is an absolute desire on the part of children to have a Dad in their lives – stable, steadfast, and performing their roles of leading their children into being upstanding and productive (as opposed to parasitical) members of society.  Sure, my Mom tried her best after Dad’s death until she remarried just before I left home for college, but even now (or better put, know it better even now), it was no real substitute for a Dad in my life.  That’s why I’m not surprised at the results of the survey – kids want a Dad that will want them as well.

Oh, the ‘a “mum” reached number 23 on the list’?  I believe it to be lower as most kids do stay with their mothers instead of their fathers – but it also shows that kids have an innate longing, again, for a Mom that longs for them as well.

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